Collaborative Divorce

January 17, 2012

A no-court, solution-oriented alternative to traditional divorce

The end of a marriage can be tragic enough. Often, the process of divorcing only adds to the pain. You and your spouse may see each other as adversaries and the divorce process as a battleground. You may experience feelings of anger, loss, confusion and pain. You may find it difficult to see an end to divorce, much less imagine a hopeful future afterwards. But, it doesn’t have to be this way.

Collaborative divorce is a solution-oriented alternative to traditional divorce. It has attracted attention nationwide as a process that focuses on finding solutions to problems that best fit the competing and and their children. In the collaborative divorce model, couples can settle their divorce cases without going to court.

The collaborative process was created to avoid the dissatisfaction which resulted from conventional divorce litigation, which often left families financially and emotionally devastated. It is a process for couples who want a civilized and respectful end to their marriage for the sake of all family members. Mutual respect is fundamental to the collaborative way. You may cease being spouses, but you don’t cease being worthy human beings. When respect is given and received, discussions are likely to be more productive and an agreement reached more easily.

If you and your spouse are contemplating divorce, but wish to control the divorce process and the outcome, want to avoid assessing blame, recognize the importance of future relationships – even after divorce, believe the importance of protecting children from the harm litigation can inflict, and place high value on personal responsibility for handling conflict with integrity, then the collaborative divorce process may very well be for you.

In collaborative divorce, settlement is the sole agenda. Each party is represented by independent, trained lawyers in the collaborative divorce process. The role of each collaborative lawyer is to provide legal advice and advocacy during the negotiation and to guide the client toward reasonable resolution. In many instances, neutral collaboratively trained experts may be retained to give financial and child-related information to both parties in order to facilitate the process.

Litigation often creates conflict and discord where none existed before. The collaborative divorce process will prevent this from happening to your family. Collaboration acknowledges that you, with the guidance from your advisors, are best qualified to determine the future of your family. Especially where children are involved, the collaborative process will help you work together to develop a parenting plan that works for your unique family. The constructive and respectful communication practiced in the collaborative divorce process will benefit your children by reducing anger, fear and stress potentially experienced by you and your children during your divorce. The collaborative divorce process allows for a smoother transition for your children to the new family structure.

At the conclusion of the collaborative divorce process you will have a divorce agreement personally tailored to meet your family’s specific needs. When you litigate, a judge has limited time and information about you and your family with which to make a lifetime decisions about your future.

For a free initial consultation to learn if the collaborative divorce process
is right for you, contact the law office of Maritza Gonzalez, P.A. located in Weston at 954.389.2221 or visit

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